How the self-actualising person deals with control and the desire for freedom

According to Abraham Maslow, there are two processes necessary

 for self-actualization: self exploration and action.

The deeper the self exploration, the closer one comes to self-actualization.

This must be logically followed by action, followed by further self exploration. 

Therefore, any situation or entity that limits or prevents either action or self exploration (or both) ultimately limits an individuals self-actualisation. 

The individual must carry out a cost-benefit analysis to make decisions regarding how to enable themself to be able to take actions that contribute to their growth and self exploration. 

For a long time I have been exploring my own self, and the path to my own self actualisation.

There have been a lot of different stages that have had significant impacts to my path. 

One of the biggest things that has held me back, and that I have had to fight ruthlessly against, is being controlled by others. 

Maintaining a semblance of control seems to be common theme in our species.

Rather than wonder why so many people attempt to control me, and others, I wonder why I don't try to do it. What enables me to feel as free as I do of constraints and the need to control or impress or please?

I dream of meeting someone who doesn't constantly try control me. Challenge me yes. Argue with me, yes. Share their ideas no matter how absurd and be themselves, yes. Be open to us both appraising our suitability to each others lives constantly, yes. Be intensely interested in my ideas and challenge them in a productive way, and be open to me challenging theirs, yes. Attempt to control me deliberately (or even unconsciously and not be open minded enough to accept it if I notice it), no.

I am on lifelong search for freedom and commitment to learning, growing and achieving my potential. 

It will mean helping people who seek to control or criticise either understand and grow, or be set aside/left behind.